Be Done with Comparison

When you compare yourself to others, you are “comparing your insides to someone else’s outsides.” When you compare yourself to others, you’re more likely to become motivated by extrinsic, shallow reasons (fame/status/wealth) than intrinsic, sustainable reasons (meaning/purpose). When you compare yourself to others, you kill your joy.

“Comparison is the death of joy.”
Mark Twain

So, here are my 10 bullets of advice to get yourself back on the right path

  • If you compare yourself to others, you may fail to accept, or identify the choices you truly If you can, focus on those choices, however, you can find the alternative that works best for you. Maintain your focus on the situation you’re in right now, on your strengths, on your own goals, and with that, you’ll never stray far from the right path.


  • Instead of comparing yourself to anyone else, keep working toward your own goals. Measure and appreciate the progress you’ve made over the last weeks, months, years. If you’ve identified that you’re not progressing toward your goals, it’s most likely because those goals are not clearly defined. Take some time to analyse your next step and measure your own progress and hold yourself accountable for that – and no more.


  • More often than not, people will concentrate on what they’re not good at and they spend their time wishing they could be better; this again can be caused by comparing yourself to others. Instead, recognize your limitations, but don’t allow them to limit you. Understand them and then defy them. Sometimes the best way to excel is to set your own


  • You are unique. Unfortunately though, comparisons don’t leave room for the things that make you unique. What are your talents? What makes you different? The purpose of your life is to find your voice, and make your own mark on the world. Your gifts and talents and successes and contributions and value are entirely unique to you and your purpose in this world. That’s why you can never truly be compared to anyone else.



  • Seek help from the people who find themselves in the place where you’d like to be. If you become overwhelmed by the realization of how much you don’t know, the solution is simple. Learn from those who do know so you can do better. Don’t hold yourself up to anyone else’s success, but let it inspire you to do better.


  • We each get 1,440 minutes each day (google it). Manage your time wisely. Using even one of those minutes to compare yourself or your accomplishments to another is a true waste of your precious time.


  • Don’t forget about the importance of celebrating the things you’ve accomplished, and when you’re finished celebrating, then raise your standard a little bit higher. Do this each time you succeed, and trust me, you’ll be too busy to compare yourself to anyone.


  • There’s so much going on in the world and in other people’s lives and, and despite our massive interests in it, acknowledge the fact that it’s completely out of your control. Instead, focus on what you can control – you. The constant need to compare ourselves to others wastes our energy by focusing or attention on other peoples’ lives rather than our own.


  • The more you compare yourself to others, the more resentment you’re likely to feel, towards yourself and towards the journey you’re on, and it’s all the more painful because this resentment is a self-inflicted wound, so stick a Band-Aid on it and shift that focus back onto you.


  • Help yourself by helping others. If you want your work to be valued, value the work of others. If you want succeed, help others succeed. What goes around comes around.

To summarise, just leave other people out of the comparisons and you’ll do fine, because success and happiness begins the moment you stop looking over your shoulder and you begin to focus on yourself.

Your Friend in Health, Strength & Fitness

Gavin Meenan


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